WOW! Today a young expectant mother called Jeff, Bill, Tiny and myself to let us in one a little dilemma. Wait, LITTLE is not the word for this one. This is the scoop:She lets us know that she was asked to be a bridesmaid in her friends wedding, she agreed, and the bride had a 'wedding contract' she needed to sign to be able to participate. WHAT? Yes, apparently there are 'wedding contracts' floating around. In the contract is stated that the bridesmaids were to pay for their dress, shoes, handbag, etc. and were also instructed that they were not allowed to change their hair or GAIN WEIGHT.
Here is her problem: (We didn't get the woman's name! ack! Shame on us!)
She found out she was pregnant, and this obviously goes against one of the brides 'rules' of gaining any weight. As she begins to show a little, the bride has told her she is no longer welcome as a bridesmaid and also will not be reimbursed the money she put in for the dress, shoes and handbag.
Has the idea of 'Bridezilla' gone too far? Since when have we allowed the wedding day to become so self indulgent as to warrant, expect and allow such behavior? I think that we get it pounded into our brains so hard that "it's YOUR day" that we just let things slide. Yes, I agree it is 'YOUR' day, but it does not give a person the right to blatantly hurt others for your own selfish and albeit, shallow needs. Yes, I said SHALLOW. A true friend wold be proud her friend is having a baby, and make it work.
What to do?
She was so dumbfounded when the bride-to-be told her over the phone that she no longer can be a bridesmaid that she did not really have a response. She is now ready for a response, but doesn't know how she should handle the situation.
Should she ask again to be in the wedding? (Maybe the bride was having an 'off' day?)
Should she demand her money back for the dress, shoes and handbag?
Should this (around 350.00) destroy her friendship because her friend is being bridezilla (who normally does not act like this)?
This is a TOUGH one. Many of you called and said that she should picket the wedding, wear the dress anyhow and let other guests know how horrible she was treated and even as far as tell the groom to run!
The only problem I have (regardless of how heartless and shallow the bride is being) is that over this, do you really want to absolutely RUIN someones wedding? I mean, yes, what the bride is doing is so wrong, but to purposely set out to destroy her wedding is a little much in my opinion. Sure, the bride is being ridiculous and by no means am I defending her decision, but at least let the wedding cake get cut before your revengeful wrath ensues!
My favorite suggestion this morning was a woman who said that she should go to the wedding (in a nice outfit) and as the wedding gift, she should wrap up the dress, handbag and shoes. This is subtle sweetness. Perhaps the bride will change her mind and allow her to be a bridesmaid afterall. Maybe the bride is just worried about her taking the spotlight, but anyway you look at it, it brings to mind what Jeff Elliott likes to say..."This Gives Me Tired-Head."
If YOU could share your thoughts/advice/suggestions/stories of your own bridezilla experience/ please send me an email: sandra@wirk.com
PLEASE let me know in your email if I can POST your email and if you wish to include your name (first only) or be anonymous.
Cheers!
Sandra
P.S. I haven't picked out a wedding song yet...17 days till my wedding, and NO, I am NOT being bridezilla! :-P
What to do?
She was so dumbfounded when the bride-to-be told her over the phone that she no longer can be a bridesmaid that she did not really have a response. She is now ready for a response, but doesn't know how she should handle the situation.
Should she ask again to be in the wedding? (Maybe the bride was having an 'off' day?)
Should she demand her money back for the dress, shoes and handbag?
Should this (around 350.00) destroy her friendship because her friend is being bridezilla (who normally does not act like this)?
This is a TOUGH one. Many of you called and said that she should picket the wedding, wear the dress anyhow and let other guests know how horrible she was treated and even as far as tell the groom to run!
The only problem I have (regardless of how heartless and shallow the bride is being) is that over this, do you really want to absolutely RUIN someones wedding? I mean, yes, what the bride is doing is so wrong, but to purposely set out to destroy her wedding is a little much in my opinion. Sure, the bride is being ridiculous and by no means am I defending her decision, but at least let the wedding cake get cut before your revengeful wrath ensues!
My favorite suggestion this morning was a woman who said that she should go to the wedding (in a nice outfit) and as the wedding gift, she should wrap up the dress, handbag and shoes. This is subtle sweetness. Perhaps the bride will change her mind and allow her to be a bridesmaid afterall. Maybe the bride is just worried about her taking the spotlight, but anyway you look at it, it brings to mind what Jeff Elliott likes to say..."This Gives Me Tired-Head."
If YOU could share your thoughts/advice/suggestions/stories of your own bridezilla experience/ please send me an email: sandra@wirk.com
PLEASE let me know in your email if I can POST your email and if you wish to include your name (first only) or be anonymous.
Cheers!
Sandra
P.S. I haven't picked out a wedding song yet...17 days till my wedding, and NO, I am NOT being bridezilla! :-P
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